February 2012
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On a more personal note: I miss you guys ;_;
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On Living Alone
So the other day I was linked to this article about how people who are single generally have just as much support as married people, and actually over time tend to have more. Then, yesterday, I saw this segment where an author talks about research he’s done on the global trend of more and more people living alone, and how, in spite of his initial expectations, he seems to have found living...
shaunsense asked: Thanks for the song translations! I'm not sure when you sent the ask because I'm tumblr-stupid, but thanks so much!
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Outside my Bubble
I haven’t had the energy/emotional wherewithal to deal with the fail of the internet re: asexuality recently, as you may have noticed, so I’ve been spending some time surrounded by happy (fannish) things to recharge my batteries, so to speak. And one of the things I noticed, leaving my cozy bubble of asexy peeps behind for a little while, was two or three very similar posts going...
草食系 and asexuality →
harris-hijiri:
aceadmiral:
shaunsense replied to your post: I was wondering, since you’ve had experience with Japanese asexual communities, if you noticed any overlap between men who identified as asexual and men who considered themselves 草食系.
Is sekumai a sexuality minority? I was kinda predicting the…
The word ’草食系’ is created at 2006 by Maki Fukasawa 深澤真紀（ふかさわ・まき）, editor, columnist. As...
blackrosewitch asked: I was wondering if you'd be able to recommend me any good books/films/television/anime/manga with an asexual lead (preferably female)? Thanks!
January 2012
18 posts
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shaunsense replied to your post: I was wondering, since you’ve had experience with Japanese asexual communities, if you noticed any overlap between men who identified as asexual and men who considered themselves 草食系. Is sekumai a sexuality minority? I was kinda...
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“Dude, just because you’re ace, doesn’t mean you have to be a unicorn...”
– Heidi, I love you.
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shaunsense asked: I was wondering, since you've had experience with Japanese asexual communities, if you noticed any overlap between men who identified as asexual and men who considered themselves 草食系.
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(Editorial) Responsibility
This morning, I was just sitting on twitter, minding my own business, and then something horrible happened. If you don’t have a twitter and wish to remain blissfully ignorant, please feel free to scroll past. But I need to get this off my chest.
Here is what happened:@asexuality (AVEN) first RT’d a tweet that said that realizing one was asexual was just as difficult as realizing one...
Ace Admiral: Asexuality and Choice →
shaunsense:
hernameishelen:
aceadmiral:
Well, I haven’t been around very much because of finals and stuff, but I have been vaguely aware of this thing that was said in an interview about BBC Sherlock the other day, and the surrounding reaction. I apologize if someone has already said this, but the…
I don’t have all the background here, but the way I’m reading this tweet is “Asexuality is...
Asexuality and Choice
hernameishelen:
aceadmiral:
Well, I haven’t been around very much because of finals and stuff, but I have been vaguely aware of this thing that was said in an interview about BBC Sherlock the other day, and the surrounding reaction. I apologize if someone has already said this, but the reaction posts I’ve read have all taken issue with one thing in particular that I think is actually correct....
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A Rant on Vocabulary
[somebody whose name I’m gonna redact because it doesn’t really matter I see this a lot and it bothers me every time] replied to your post: Asexuality and Choice
Oh God, it’s “poikkisexual” now? Please can this not happen? I really don’t care about the reasoning behind it, it looks and sounds ridiculous.
Okay, this has been driving me quietly batty, and so I apologize in...
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Asexuality and Choice
Well, I haven’t been around very much because of finals and stuff, but I have been vaguely aware of this thing that was said in an interview about BBC Sherlock the other day, and the surrounding reaction. I apologize if someone has already said this, but the reaction posts I’ve read have all taken issue with one thing in particular that I think is actually correct. Here is the quote in...
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@always-1895
I can’t seem to find your ask box, so I hope you see this, but I just remembered:
Apparently Luffy from One Piece is asexual according to an interview with the mangaka. Apparently he’d aromantic too, because I believe the interview went on to say “so there will accordingly never be any romance in One Piece” or something like that. If that helps :D?
always-1895 asked: Do you know of any manga or anime that discusses asexuality, other than the "Sweet Prisoner” oneshot in "Migite ni Juu Hidarite ni Ai"? Especially if you know of anything created by an out asexual person. I will be running a panel on LGBT+ manga and anime at Anime Boston this year, and am trying to follow up a request I had at the panel last year to include ace manga or...
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tanafluk asked: First off, I ADORE your asexy fic collection. It's brilliant and wonderful and I love that it exists. :) And I went through my tags on delicious and here's two fics I couldn't find on the list; pardon me if you do have them and I missed them or something. The first one is Sherlock (BBC), Your Moral Crisis is Stupid by etothepii; the second one is Pads, Paws and Claws by cesare.
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Asexy Fic I Know About - Update 1/6/12! →
New stories in: Sherlock (BBC), Axis Powers Hetalia, White Collar, Marvel Comics, Star Trek, Inception, Homestuck, Glee, Pundit RPS, St. Trinian’s, Bandom, Leverage, Original, Stargate SG-1, Supernatural, Backstreet Boys, Cabin Pressure, Elder Scrolls, Empire Records, Enchanted, Frontier Wolf, Girls With Slingshots, Hachimitsu to Clover, Phineas and Ferb, Planetary, Pokemon, Star Wars,...
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Brainwashed
I just read an article about the Hollywood taboo still hanging on being a gay man that has sex that ended with a quote from a filmwriter. He lamented that he wanted to see gay romance stories on the silver screen, but it’s difficult to do so if the characters can’t have sex. “You can’t tell a real love story if no one is doing it.”
Maybe you can’t.
...
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okay I promise I won't post about sherlock again...
dropkicks:
just
am I the only one who was really uncomfortable with all the comments about sherlock’s assumed virginity
it’s like they noted this show being popular with a bunch of asexual people and went OKAY BETTER MAKE THESE GUYS FEEL INCLUDED
LOOK SHERLOCK DOESN’T DO THE SEX THING. JUST LIKE YOU GUYS
BUT THAT’S PRETTY WEIRD
I MEAN WHAT KIND OF ADULT IS A VIRGIN
BUT IT’S OKAY HE...
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I guess I’ve been a little depressed lately.
I got to see my ex-roommate/something more just before Christmas. She came all the way over here to visit me, and she brought me cookies, and in her Christmas card she wrote how much she missed me. And I missed her, too. I miss her now.
But actually seeing her for the the first time in 9 months made me realize… That’s why they...
December 2011
20 posts
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nethdugan answered your question: This isn’t strictly asexuality related (although… The collected works (read: song lyrics) of Queen and David Bowie.
You are… not serious… are you? I am quite sure translations of most if not all of the songs...
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lazchan answered your question: This isn’t strictly asexuality related (although… The greatest love in one’s life is a cat.
人生の最高の愛は猫との愛だ。
By the way guys, it doesn’t have to fit in the answer box. I’ve done song lyrics, magazine articles, legal...
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emerald-ace replied to your post: emerald-ace answered your question: This isn’t… Here’s another one, if you want: “Also, I can kill you with my brain.” ~ River Tam (I have a 6 page Word document of quotes. I can do this all day. Stop me if I get too...
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blackdogrunning answered your question: This isn’t strictly asexuality related (although… “The world is not to be divided into sheep and goats” -Kinsey, et al.
世界のものすべてを羊とヤギに分けるべきではない。【アルフレッド・キンゼイ】
Um, this is not really a good translation, partially because...
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emerald-ace answered your question: This isn’t strictly asexuality related (although… How about, “To be great is to be misunderstood.” ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson
You gave me something I could check through google! I appreciate it :P
...
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This isn’t strictly asexuality related (although it could be if you like), but I know I have at least a couple of followers who might be interested. (At least, I desperately hope so.)
I have my exams in two weeks, and in preparation for that I’d like to spend reading week doing as much translation practice as possible. So, if there’s anything you’d like translated either...
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Little by little, again and again.(from...
harris-hijiri:
・[Re:Bit](Student organization of Waseda University)
There are ‘LGBT coming-of-age celebration(LGBT成人式)’ in Japan. [Re:Bit] is student organization of Waseda university. They will run it at January 2012(http://www.geocities.jp/lgbtseijinshiki/index.html).
Quote from [About Re:Bit](http://www.geocities.jp/lgbtseijinshiki/about.html)
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Whatever
pinkpenguin22:
aceadmiral:
lizziegoneastray:
pinkpenguin22:
I don’t think that repulsed aces need to be cured for the sake of the community or even at all.
What I do think is that some people use their repulsion as an excuse to say “eww, this is gross” when they probably would not have been as sex-negative in the first place without that repulsion. I’m not saying that this is true of...
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Whatever
lizziegoneastray:
pinkpenguin22:
I don’t think that repulsed aces need to be cured for the sake of the community or even at all.
What I do think is that some people use their repulsion as an excuse to say “eww, this is gross” when they probably would not have been as sex-negative in the first place without that repulsion. I’m not saying that this is true of everyone, or even most people, but...
Ace Admiral: What Aversion Means →
calinlapin:
aceadmiral:
I made a quick post last night about what repulsion/aversion is not, but my initial intention was to write a post about what aversion is. I’ve tried to think of a way that I could, you know, introduce my personal experience and then broaden it out, or try and weave together several people’s…
As always on this subject, I fully agree. The discussion was held on the...
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What Aversion Means
I made a quick post last night about what repulsion/aversion is not, but my initial intention was to write a post about what aversion is. I’ve tried to think of a way that I could, you know, introduce my personal experience and then broaden it out, or try and weave together several people’s writing on the subject, but there is a problem with either of those strategies in that neither...
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A Response to Slightlymetaphysical →
Reblogging again for germaneness.
Guys, I am but a humble observer of my bit of the ace community, but I feel comfortable asserting that the people who claim to throw up when they think about boobs or whatever are still in the detox phase. They are also making their comments on the internets, land of hyperbole. And even if they weren’t, tell me you have never heard of or perhaps yourself...
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Since the people in ace tags who clearly have no idea what repulsion/aversion is seem not to be going away, let me help you out with a quick little PSA:
Aversion =/= Fear of Sex
There is nothing for a psychiatrist to fix.
Look, dudes, you need to STOP the “aversive people should get themselves fixed” thing RIGHT NOW. Stop “worrying” for us. Stop asking...
I wrote a response to the whole anti-sex/repulsion thing going on, but it was kind of really angry, so I don’t think I’m going to post it. Especially because it boils down to: tumblr, I expected better of you. :/
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scalygreenpanties:
question about asexuality
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Hello :D
The common definition in use for asexuality is a lack of sexual attraction. Sexual desire doesn’t really come into it. So people who don’t want to have sex, or who are afraid to, or lack a sex drive for some reason are not necessarily asexual, no. Those people are only asexual if they don’t experience...
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Respect
There seems to be something going on in the asexuality tag that I can’t find the source. Since I don’t know all the particulars of the discussion, I don’t want to jump into their discussion, but I do have something to say about the topic, and I think it ties into something else I’ve seen floating around recently.
There seems to be a question of whether or not asking after...
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aversive asexual erasure: maybe it's just me?
sidneyia:
I’ve been extremely indecisive over writing this post because I feel like maybe I’m just paranoid or imagining all this. It seems like, whenever I see a definition or a discussion of asexuality, there is a lot of effort to point out that “many asexuals enjoy sex!” or “many asexuals compromise and agree to have sex to please their partners!” or even “many asexuals identify as...
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Terminology Poll
nethdugan:
aceadmiral:
greenchestnuts:
In the next week or couple of weeks, I’ll be posting a poll to get an informal idea of how people feel about various alternatives to “non-ace-spectrum” as a descriptor for people who are not on the asexual spectrum— are not asexual, grey-asexual, or demisexual. This poll will be open to everybody.
For that to happen, I want to compile as exhaustive of...
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Terminology Poll
greenchestnuts:
In the next week or couple of weeks, I’ll be posting a poll to get an informal idea of how people feel about various alternatives to “non-ace-spectrum” as a descriptor for people who are not on the asexual spectrum— are not asexual, grey-asexual, or demisexual. This poll will be open to everybody.
For that to happen, I want to compile as exhaustive of a list of possible of all...
November 2011
52 posts
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Sheldon Cooper - The Big Bang Theory
fictionalaces:
Sheldon Cooper is most likely an Asexual, because he expresses no sexual desire whatsoever, and behaves as if the notion is very offputting. He is, however, not against being in a relationship with Amy Farrah Fowler. He simply deems their relationship to be “One of the mind.”
When Amy seeks physical contact, he is loathe to agree, and turns down her request for sex. The two of...
Open Letter to Researchers →
(via Asexual News)
NUMBER 1, PLEASE AND THANK YOU. I don’t think I ever made the post I was grumbling to myself about making regarding this topic, but if I have to fill out that one “standard” set of questions that *every* researcher attaches to their survey that *does not take aces into account* and then they excuse it by saying, “Well but it’s standard.” NO....
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Control and the Conversation
This is not a response to anything in particular, but rather in general. This is a plea, and my reasons for making it. This is a little more forceful than I like to get. This is something I need to say.
[TW: Discussion of hate crimes; Anti-Ace Sentiment]
Someone on my dash linked another post by MissVoltairine. I don’t know why I decided to read it. Probably because I wanted to give her...
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Anonymous asked: Sorry, it's me again, person of the many asks. I'm sorry for cluttering your inbox. This is probably just me being super-paranoid now, but I think I would rather not have these answered, at all. It was probably a mistake to send it to you in the first place, knowing you would answer them (and it's great that you do, but). I don't want to risk them getting out on the internets...
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Anonymous asked: Thank you so much for your posts on this latest ace naming kerfluffle. It's always frustrating when it comes up, and it's awesome to see such well-written, kick-ass posts about it. One thing I was thinking about the objection to people-who-generally-experience-sexual-attraction name issue - which seems to always come from people who identify with the LGBT community, so I'm referring...
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Not to detract from my Highly Logical and Rational rhetoric, but I have to say:
I don’t like allisexual, allosexual, appetant, etc. for the exceedingly frivolous reason that they start with the letter ‘A’.
I look at them and I think “just think of all the typos I will make and all the confusion that will ensue!”
So. That’s just my thing. Anyway. Okay. Bye.
Can we not
foolishfiish:
Can we not split up the ace spectrum by romantic orientation?
It’s rude and erasing.
There are tons who go by asexual/demisexual/gray-asexual first and whatever romantic orientation (if they have one) second. And there are those who go by their romantic orientation first and asexual/demisexual/gray-asexual second. And that’s fine.
When the ace spectrum is split up by romantic...